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ok so here's the deal My biological father is moving back to Wyoming for work, and is taking me, but here's where it gets crazy. Hey'll be living with his (will call it his butt buddy girlfriend who's having an affair with her husband who's on his death bed) She got him fired before, cause her husband, and her we're working on their marriage, and he didn't wanna get involved in court. Not to mention her family owns the gum factory hey'll be working at as well am I.

The only thing I have an issue with is if he does something she don't like, or I we get kicked out, and on the streets in the middle of the country in a farm like 20 miles away from a gas station or some crap like that. (At least out here I know where places are, how things are, and can get around. idk squat about where I'll be going)

Another thing is I hardly know my biological father. My dad (the dude my mom lives with) hates his guts, and has tried to kill him numerous times, and my mother wouldn't let us see him as she don't like him either, cause he used to be an alcoholic, and lets say things got a little out of control, and I was lucky I lived as well as her. Now my mother was never there either gone weeks, and even months, and Mark (the man I call dad) has always been there.

Now my sister disowns my biological father as he was never there from when we were like 5-18 and then he came. Well if I leave (which I haft to make the decision tomorrow, as we'll be leaving Wednesday, and I already spent $150 for the plane ticket) my sister will disown me as well. I'll no longer be allowed to live here (my hommie Eric moved to Hawaii) as Mark (the man I call dad) will disown me as well living with my father, and his "girlfriend" sort to speak.

I wanna go as the unemployment rate here is terrible, and it's a real pain to get a job, and the best way to make money is selling (that says enough) However If I move I'll have a job, money, and will be able to provide for myself, as well as others, but as for coming back well that's out of the question unless I rent a motel or some crap like that.

I'm in a tuff situation. Can anyone help???

That does sound really terrible but the best thing to do is to move so you can support yourself, hopefully your family can just sort their problems out. Explain to your sister why you have to move so she doesn't disown you.

Well sounds difficult hope you work it all out man!

Things like this can be hard because I was in a similar-ish type of situation a few years ago. My sister had a fall out with my cousins (I wont go into details) and she didnt like me talking and seeing them but my cousins were like my best mates we grew up and did everything together so I couldnt stay away from them...but on the other hand my sister is my sister and my loyalty is with her and I didnt want to take sides. My sister was angry at me for a while for talking to my cousins but she got over it in the end and everyone made up and we are now all friends again.

I guess my point is that families moan b*tch and complain and even the biggest fall outs eventually sort themselves out and we forgive forget and move on. You have to do whats best for you because you need money to survive and if that means you have no choice but to move to Wyoming then thats what you have to do!. Your family may not like it and even you may not like it but if its the only way you can be sure to earn a living then what choice do you have?

Life isnt easy and we all have to make difficult choices and if you do decide to go im sure your sister and the rest of your family will understand eventually.

Whatever you decide I wish you all the best cooll;

Yeah well my family isn't exactly normal. I decided to stay here, cause I thought of my nephew, and I'd like to be there for my nephew ya know?

To much crap out here that I still wanna do too.

I know I'm gonna regret it, but I think I'm making the right decision.

If it makes you happy, then it IS the right decision for you.

sounds a lot like my family especially the part where your dad is an alcoholic

Was he quit drinking, but my family disowned my biological father. Which I can see why, and other reasons it's a little confusing. My family is far from normal, but well how many people you know that live in the hood that's normal?

my grandpa is an alcoholic( he lives in poland )
which ,I know , SUCKS. Last time I was there he was drunk twice a week. He was found on the street by someone, he fell so hard from his bike that he lost his saddle. He slept for 23hours and then woke up for dinner. the neighbor of my grandpa died because of drinking